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Fashion: Perfect Outfits When Attending a Wedding

March 28, 2015

Fashion has changed to the degree that even what we wear attending weddings has changed.  For some it has become more upscale, and for others it’s more of a laid back; and then there are those straight out the ghetto box, but you can’t judge them or criticize them.  They all are unique in their own way.

As we are continuously seeing fashion trends thinking outside the box with creativity at the help, the what do I wear to the wedding is a question that is being giving more and more consideration for the fashion conscience because the need to be different, unique, and of course not upstaging the bride and her wedding party, is essential.

So, I have a wedding coming up that I will also be photographing.  Now, I attended a wedding three years ago where the photographer was dressed like she was just lounging around the house. But that was her choice and what she was most comfortable in.  In this case, I am also a guest at the wedding so I have dual roles.  What this means is I have to dress as the guest and be prepared as the photographer.

1416786371807-P-2215365 1416786371972-P-2215365I was going to wear this fabulous blue lace dress.  See how the mesh drops it slightly off the shoulders, and how it opens in the back with a mesh covering?  Very glamorous and elegant.  But I thought better of the idea of wearing the dress since I’m going to be photographing the wedding, too.

I decided that this is more of a dress better for another special event like  the Blue & White event coming up in April, or going for cocktails, or for attending another function where dressing elegantly is called for.

Another thing we have to keep in mind is whether or not what you’re wearing is appropriate.  As guests attending the wedding, you really don’t want to be the one being talked about in a negative way because of what you wore.  Why put yourself in that type of situation anyway.

Wedding AttireI decided to switch it up altogether and go with something a little more subtle.

The blazer and pants are from H & M (off white), the blouse is an Eva Mendes collection piece from New York & Company when the line first launched in 2013, the purse is from Forever21 (getting ready to purchase), and the shoes are Qupid Pinch-01 I purchased from DB Shoes last year around September or October (can’t really remember when, but I obsessed over them until I got them).

Did I just pull a complete ensemble right out of my closet?  Well, yes I did!  I really didn’t want to spend a whole lot of money on an outfit when I’m going to be doing quite a bit of moving around.  This way, the money I am saving can go towards things like getting mine and my daughter’s hair done, getting her an outfit to wear, picking up camera equipment, and reserving a hotel room for an overnight stay.

The key to choosing the right ensemble is knowing what your style is, where the event is taking place, and how long you plan on staying.  You want to look good, but you also want to be comfortable. And of course you don’t want to look like you just climbed out of bed either.

So when you’re thinking about what to wear to a wedding, think about how far out you want to go how elegant you want to look, or how simple you want to keep it.  I like to keep it upscale.

Hair: Relaxing Your Hair After You Dye It

March 23, 2015

Hello, ladies — those of you who are pondering whether or not to relax your hair after you dye it.  Some of you have been stopping by a post I had written a long while ago about dying your hair with a relaxer.  I want to answer the question again and hopefully put some of your mind at ease.

Rene Hair 3-22-15I dyed my hair on 3/07/15…of course you can’t tell because it’s not the color I wanted, but I did.  Then I waited two weeks and two shampoos and conditioners before relaxing my hair.  I used a protein complex prior to applying the relaxer creme, I used a protectant around my edges and my ears, and I used the protein complex with my conditioner (you can use it separately) and let it sit for about 10 minutes, then rinsed it out.  This is the result from having relaxed my hair two weeks after I dyed it.

Rene Hair 3-22-15BI have a good pair of trimming shears that I used to trim away the straggly hairs — taking your doing this because you want to keep your hair as even as possible.  If you are not sure about trimming your hair Google the best ways to trim your hair to avoid any unnecessary damage.

I don’t believe I mentioned this in my previous post, but during this time you have to take precautions to protect your hair from any breakage.  Products with oils, botanicals, and extracts that offer key ingredients in acting as anti-breakage tools can serve as safe guards for your hair and provide instant repair for healthier looking hair.

unnamedThis is one I’ve added to my hair regimen.  Although it can be used daily, I use it at least twice a week, or when my hair calls for it.  Since using this I found it works best on my ends with just a little vitamin E oil.  I still use my coconut oil and my olive oil grow therapy, but mostly for my scalp — but lightly to avoid my hair being weighted, and I use Finisheen after I’ve flat ironed and/or curled my hair — my hair just loves that spray.

Now, if you are contemplating relaxing your hair after you dye it, or visa versa, there are the precautions you need to take.  Regardless of which relaxer product you use there is a timeline you MUST follow to avoid burning and leaving it on your hair for too long which can burn your hair off and burn your scalp.  It can happen!!!  Follow the instructions exactly and keep the timing under or within ten minutes for application, working quickly as possible.  Fifteen minutes is pushing the barriers and subjecting you to burn.

My daughter told me about a vitamin A and B shampoo and conditioner that Organix has.  I am inclined to try it out, but before I do, I want to do some research on it, find any valid reviews about the product to see if whether or not it would be good for my hair.  So far this is what I’ve come across in terms of what the ingredients are for the B5 shampoo and conditioner by Organix.  This is the shampoo’s ingredients.


Water (Aqua) , Ammonium Lauryl Sulfate , Cocamidopropyl Betaine , PPG-2 Hydroxyethyl Coco , Isostearamide , Pantothenic Acid (Vitamin B5) , Amodimethicone , Polyquaternium-10 , Capric Glycerides , PEG-6 Caprylic , PEG-150 Pentaerythrityl Tetrastearate , Trideceth-12 , Cetrimonium Chloride , Sodium Chloride , Tetrasodium EDTA , Citric Acid , Diazolidinyl Urea , Iodopropynyl Butylcarbamate , Fragrance

You want to pay attention that the products are not loaded with alcohol, which in my experience, leaves my hair dry and brittle, and has, in one instant, altered the texture of my hair since I wear relaxers, so I tend to stay away from products with an abundance of alcohol.  It makes a huge difference.

When dying and relaxing your hair, keep in mind the process that goes into protecting it long-term.  Look into deep conditioning which I recommend be done at least once a month and should not be left on your hair more than an hour because then your hair will be too fragile.  Sit under a dryer or a heating cap.  And shea butter is a good and popular sealant to use.

Homemade deep conditioners are probably the best because you are using all natural ingredients.  Mayonnaise is said to be a good deep conditioner because it leaves your hair soft afterwards, but this is ideal for those who wear their hair natural.  Use Olive oil, extra virgin coconut oil, shea butter, and other ingredients that will give the moisturizing your hair needs

It will protect from breakage, and promote healthy hair.

Google homemade deep conditioners for relaxed hair.  There are some good recipes out there.

Consult with an expert before going the route of dying and relaxing your especially if this is your first rodeo.  It can go terribly wrong if you do not take the necessary precautions and follow the instructions.  In either case make sure your hair clean when starting the processes.  When you are preparing to relax your hair avoid scratching your scalp, and wait 24 to 48 hours to relax your hair after you’ve washed and conditioned it.

If still unsure have it professionally done by someone who is highly skilled.  This way you get the treatment needed for good looking hair.

Spring/Summer Wear: Yellow in Spring Time

February 17, 2015

Spring is  vastly approaching.  Next month time will change and we’ll have to spring forward and soon we’ll be ready to break out our best Spring Time wears.  In this post I’ll be spotlighting on my favorite of all time, best lace outfits ~ in yellow.

Amazon_61DZNwuHlDL._UY679_First up, this sassy number that takes the “F” out of flirtatious and brings sexy to a whole new level.  I have the white version of this dress and let me tell you, it’s very delicate, not to mention has a nice weight to it.

It has a full zipper in the back ~ meaning from top to bottom, and is a full lace dress throughout with a lining to cover all the right places.  It’s one of those dresses that gives you a serious bang for your buck.

Have a Spring event to attend?  This would be one of those dresses you could wear and be the center of attention.  And the best thing about it is, you won’t break the bank buying the dress, however, I recommend researching various resources on where to purchase it because there are different online resources who sell this particular dress, and the prices vary.

Amazon is one good place to look at least you know you’ll get it and if there’s a problem with your order you would be able to contact the seller.  Check it out.

RoseWholeSale_1413423069147-P-2094540Next on my list of Spring Time brights, is this gorgeous number.  Lace never looked so pretty in this delicate piece, pretty enough to wear to any occasion that calls for you to dress up in your very best.

This piece presents a sexy backless view, lined just above the knee with a sheer flowing floor length dress.  Pair this with a pair of strappy high heel sandals and you’re bound to turn head.  I suggest an up do hair style that brings out the allure of this piece.

Yellow is one of those colors that we are starting to see a lot more of as designers gear up for another season of Spring/Summer fashion for the fashionista at heart.

During the Spring time I like to see soft and bright colors welcoming in the new season.  To me they are reminders of the summer that will follow close behind.  It’s  a fun time of the year because you get to see what different trends are introduced, and just where people’s sense of style lays.

Aliexpress_New-Sexy-Yellow-Lace-Mini-Dress-2014-Women-Elegant-Prom-Vestidos-See-Through-Slim-Bodycon-Amarelo.jpg_220x220Want something simple, short, but cute all at the same time?  This little dainty number is very cute and can be one of those you wear out for cocktails. Not into going for cocktails?  If you’re going to a wedding, this would be perfect.  You’ll be the best dressed among friends and family, and you’re bound to be complimented on how beautiful you look.

What I like about this dress is the mesh atop of this dress, and I especially love the shoes that was paired with this dress.  Exactly the way I would have paired.  White high heel peep toe, sling back shoes seems to bring out the elegance of this dress.  This is one of those you want to keep simple and not over do it with gaudy accessories and handbags.  A simple clutch purse would suffice, and simple earrings would be perfect.

LongSleeveLaceDressI have one more to show you, which I’ve saved the best  for last.  BOOM!  Feast your eyes on this beauty.  This is my favorite one of them all!!!  It is beyond glamorous and one I’d like to see Beyonce in because it would look fabulous on her.  And we all know how she loves those one of a kind designer dresses.  I’d love for her to showcase something similar to this at her one of her events.  Imagine how stunning she would look.

The backless view, diamond cutout front, long sleeves, and floor length gown oozes everything that beauty is all about.  Clearly the designers of this dress knew exactly what they were doing when they created this dress.

Wearing yellow can be tricky if you’re not properly coordinating the color right down to the shoes.  White is always a good choice as well as silver.  I would not choose a a dark color or anything that would take away from the ensemble.

QupidNeonYellow1And if you want to get technical about it, throw in a pair of yellow high heels like my favorite pair shown here at left.  I picked these up from DB Shoes last year.  They became an obsession I couldn’t live without.  I dreamed about them every night and they just weighed heavy on my brain.

If you grew up around high heel shoes like I did back in the 60’s and 70’s, and watched a lot of black and white films, you’d know that these shoes have the old-fashioned style of the Baby Doll high heel shoes except spruced up with a modern day feel set atop a stiletto heel, double ankle strap and platform.

We are going all things yellow this season because it’s the color we need to see more of.  And as fashion designers continue to get more creative, so should the colors of the Spring/Summer season.

Strappy high heel sandals, peep toe sling backs, and even single sole high heel pumps offer the right touch; but if you’re going to go with any other color than white or silver, choose a soft pastel color, and choose carefully because you want the ensemble to POP in all the right directions.

You don’t have to break the bank to look your absolute best with any of these beautiful pieces.  If you’re all about style, glamour, and have a little diva in you, I’m sure you will want to get something like these and go beyond dressing to impress.  They can also be perfect date night dresses in comparison to the little black dress, except it’s in yellow ~ you’ll be the ray of sunshine to that special someone.

Updated February 24, 2015

Style by DailyLook: A Perfect Valentine’s Day Evening

February 8, 2015

Valentine’s Day is one of the most favorite times of year.  Love is in the air and romance speaks volumes.  With it being just around the corner, I put together my version of the perfect look for a romantic evening out!

I chose my favorite little black dress from as my inspiration for my look.  I love lace because it just works well with being sexy and feeling beautiful.  What will you be wearing for the special occasion?

The little black dress dress never goes out of fashion.  It presents a romantic presence. 
Beautysets - Perfect Valentine's Day Evening


Favorite Wedges: Springing Forward with Must Have Wedges

February 3, 2015

In preparation for the Spring/Summer season, I’m taking a look at some of my favorite shoes to get my hands on, like the wedge heels.  There is nothing like having a good pair of wedges to dress up any outfit with the right touch.

Last week I visited what is not my favorite neighborhood boutique, Fashion Island, out here in Long Beach.  They’ve recently amped up their shoe selection and are kicking off the Spring/Summer season with some hot wedges that are just a scream.

51ZIDeDYg3L._UY395_BAMBOO is letting us know they are still in the game of creating hot styles, especially wedges.  And for $22.00, I was not about to let them get away.

They are set atop an approximate 5 inch wedge heel with a 1 1/2 platform.  The footbed is cushioned for comfortable wear, and the material is like a nude buck, soft in touch.

If you look online, you’ll find they come in an array of colors.  I’m going to go back to my boutique and get the black ones and go online and get the rose colored ones, too.  They also have blue, red, and I think I saw salmon and lavender.  Perfect for the Spring/Summer season.

bamboo_eliza25_nudnub_4There is something to be said about wedge heels.  I like to wear them with a legging outfit, my capri jeans, my skinny jeans, and my white denim shorts and pair the ensemble up with a cute flowy top that just makes the whole ensemble pop.

If you prefer to wear them with a maxi skirt or dress, that would work just as well.  But you have to do it just right because the wrong outfit can make them wedge heels look off.  And who wants that.

bamboo_eliza25_nudnub_1I would consult with a professional shoe repair on how to clean them because you don’t want to take the chance at ruining them.

When you drive, and if you’re like me, take an extra pair of shoes to drive in so you don’t ruin the back of the wedge heels.  A good friend of mine suggested keeping a towel in the car to put down while driving.  That’s really a good idea because I have a lot of light colored heels that I don’t want carpet dirt ruining the heel of my shoes.

Next up, I visited Call It Spring’s web site to see what they are working with this Spring/Summer season in wedge heels and I was tickled to see that they have some white wedge high heels, which means I will be replacing my old ones very soon.

31_fralirien_32_6Call It Spring is one of my favorite stores, thanks to my daughter who turned me on to them.  Their handbags and shoes, and their boots are at the top of my list for season must haves.  Although I do not own anything by them at the moment, I am definitely going to make my first purchase these wedge heels in bone color and a matching handbag.  That’s just how I roll…have to keep it coordinated.  I have been told that I tend to over do it in being color coordinated.  I get that from my mother who said if you’re going to do it, then do it right.  I grew up in a family consisting mostly of females, and my aunts knew how to dress to turn heads.  Looking glamorous.  :)

I want these particular ones because of an outfit I picked up from one of the Rainbow stores last week.  It’s mostly a white ensemble, with a pastel printed top.  These would bring it altogether.

About these wedge heels:  The heel height measures at 5 1/2 with a platform at 1 1/2.  They are made with a synthetic material and have a cushioned footbed for comfort while stepping out looking stylish.

31_fralirien_66_6You can have your choice of four other colors, nubuck black, navy, khaki, and peach (shown at right).  I like colors, mostly bright.  I’d get the navy ones, too, to wear with my jeans when I’m hanging out with my friends, or when my guy and I are out on the town taking in a movie.  They start at $17.99 and go up to $39.99.

I’m all about the best deals in town whether in store or online without sacrificing keeping up with today’s trends and what current trends are showing us today is wedges are continuing to climb the ladder in fashionable styles because there is something for everybody.

I’ve been wearing wedge heels since I was a teenager, so I’ve seen them evolve into this mass hysteria of epic proportion in what we all need and must have in our wardrobes.  And if you’re a shoe love like I am, you will have at least three pairs, different styles, and different colors.  You can’t just have one.

Why do I love wedges?  If worn with the right ensemble, they are sexy.  I don’t wear just any wedge heel, I take time looking for the right style that I know will go well with my wardrobe.  And as I am preparing to pull out my Spring/Summer fashion wears and make plans to add to it, having the right wedge heels, to me, is important.  I don’t want to look crazy. ;)

With the rise of jumpsuits being highly favored, wedges would be a great addition to creating the right ensemble.








Here is another one of my favorite wedge heels from Call It Spring.  These are light pink with an approximate heel height of about 5 inches and the platform about 1 inch or so.  They are not lined with a cushioned footbed like many of the ones I like, but they are cute indeed.  They will set you back $39.99.

I haven’t checked out lately because it’s hard to pinpoint when they will have wedge heel styles I like and fit my specific taste.  My last white wedge heels came from their site, but haven’t been able to find a good pair on their site since.  Don’t get me wrong, I keep looking because they are still one of my favorite sites, specifically because they have daily deals as high as 55% off on their site, and huge clearance deals you can’t get enough of.

OK, so the thing about wearing wedge high heels is being absolutely certain that not only do you find the best fit, but that you can also walk in them.  Doesn’t do any good if you’ve got the perfect wedge heel sandals and can’t walk in them without looking awkwardly uncomfortable.

I’ve been wearing high heels since I was 15 years old, and I’m 47 now, so I’ve had a lot of practice and have worn many styles including the classic baby doll high heels and the cork heel wedge heels.

Choosing the right wedge heels means determining what fits your individual style.  If you can’t handle the famous 5+ inch heel wedges like I love, you should go with something that’s more comfortable to you.  Remember, there are many styles that shoes designers have graced us with, so there is definitely something for you.

Keep checking back as I spotlight more of my favorite wedge heels, and be sure to check out the 2015 Shoe Gallery as I start updating it with my latest buys.

Style File: Bringing Sexy to Jumpsuits

December 28, 2014

style-file1Welcome to another edition of Style File.  I couldn’t let the year end without giving you one more post.

In this post I am showcasing three of my favorite styles in jumpsuits.  I hope you will agree that these are the prettiest you’ve ever seen or at least close to it.

During the holiday season, while out and about, I came across some wonderful styles in jumpsuits, and I continued throughout my days, I noticed that in the special occasion scene jumpsuits are making a huge come back in the fashion industry.  Designers are stepping up to the plate to create stylish designs that are specific to wearing to events such as parties and weddings.

Jumpsuits are coming from behind the scenes, out of the casual world and coming into the glamour spotlight, which I am finding to be very nice.  Therefore, it’s time to turn up the notch and draw some major attention to some of the hottest jumpsuits I’ve come across, which are three of my favorite styles.

3128355-p-2xFirst up, I was browsing around Ross Stores in Long Beach and came across this Calvin Klein two tone jumpsuit.  Calvin Klein is among my favorite designers and is heating up the fashion scene with this simple but sexy jumpsuit.

When I first saw this I thought oh hell yeah…I had to add this to my collection of Calvin Klein wear.  It has a belt, a snap fastener at front, and elastic waist.  I am losing weight, so you know when I saw the size 12, I had to have it.

3128355-2-4xThe comfort and overall feel of this jumpsuit speaks to the sex appeal of the woman.  The front neck line piece makes it look stunning and with the right shoes, you are bound have the perfect ensemble.

As we know jumpsuits have been around for years.  Best known for their overall jeans look, over the years they have been transformed into sexy garments that step out for all areas of life, overflowing into the special occasions sector.

Several styles and designs, and an array of colors makes for something spicy and elegant.  Chiffon, to put it best, are speaking to the woman’s sensual side.

European Jumpsuits1In my quest for the perfect jumpsuit I came across this pretty blue chiffon number. Understand, this is my favorite color, so when I first saw it, you can’t believe how amazed I was by it.

This jumpsuit is chiffon with a polyester lining, a back zipper closure, wide leg, and rose ruffles decor to make it pretty and elegant.  I purchased this piece for an event.  It comes in four different colors, blue (shown), lavender, rose pink, and black.  This can be found on Aliexpress.  However, I recommend searching the site for the best price and right size.

European Jumpsuits2I can get away with wearing gold high heel sandals or blue which either way brings out the entire look of the jumpsuit.  For caring for this particular jumpsuit I would have it dry cleaned to avoid ruining it by putting it in the washer and dryer.  Dry cleaning it will prolong the life of it and will give it extended wear.

Even though there are four different colors, I think the blue one is by far the best one.  My daughter told me when I showed it to her via text message (she lives in another state), “that’s a whole lot of blue.”  In her opinion she feels I am addicted to the color.  Basically I pretty much am addicted to the color blue.  Have been every since I was a little girl.  I have a blue car and a little blue teddy bear that rides in it.

My wardrobe is being transformed in to some of today’s current trends.  Out with the old and in with the new.

European Jumpsuits4Here is an example of what the back looks like.  Overall, the quality of this piece is well designed, and the style is really nice. For a true fit, check the size chart from the seller you purchase it from because you want to get as close to a true fit as possible.

Now I had planned on wearing the blue jumpsuit to an event until I saw the jumpsuit from Calvin Klein.  And I thought I was pretty much set because I was going to wear my All Star high heels with the jumpsuit.

But then, I got curious about another jumpsuit I had been looking for some time back and could not find it in my size, that is until I went from looking on Aliexpress and was going to pay over $30.00, to looking on and found it from Finejo for nearly half that cost.

This particular jumpsuit is the one I really wanted and is both sexy and alluring.  For this jumpsuit and to appreciate it’s overall design, an up do hairstyle is imminent.

Woman-Nobel-Elegant-Sexy-Pearl-Collar-Patchwork-Lace-Jumpsuit-Transparent-Sleeveless-Overall-Trousers-Party-Suit-KZ004The best way to describe this jumpsuit is by its pictures alone.  I was captivated by this particular jumpsuit because I can’t recall ever seeing one so beautifully designed with the right amount of elegance.

Often my boyfriend is telling me that I have no casual clothes in my wardrobe because I am always focused on dressing my best in some of the most prettiest clothes I can find.  But that’s just me.  I do have casual wear in my wardrobe.  When the time calls for it, I do wear them.  And when the time calls for putting on some clothes and looking my very best, I guarantee you he is not going to deny me that opportunity.  What man does not appreciate his woman looking good from head to toe?

I was searching to find the best description of the fabric and it states it is chiffon, lace top, and elastic in the waist, but I’m not quite sure about that.  In other descriptions it stated it was polyester, which we all know that polyester has the look and feel of being almost like chiffon.  Either way, it is an exquisite ensemble I would be happy to own and wear to my upcoming event.

BeadingThe pearl detail around the neck is a nice added touch to the lace.  There is a two button closure on the back at the neck. There is an opening in the back with a invisible zipper closure on the pants.

I love the length of the pants because they will cover my ankle and feet enough to be able to sport the best shoes, which I’ll probably wear my gold glitter sandals or purchase a pair of off white or beige elegant high heel pumps.

I haven’t come across a pair that fits the style of this jumpsuit, but I am still looking.  They will have to have a certain look and style to them to make the ensemble speak volumes when I wear it.

Women-s-Summer-2014-Halter-neck-Lace-Patchwork-Chiffon-Jumpsuit-Trousers-Strapless-Jumpsuit-Women-s-Jumpsuit101Women-s-Summer-2014-Halter-neck-Lace-Patchwork-Chiffon-Jumpsuit-Trousers-Strapless-Jumpsuit-Women-s-Jumpsuit3Here is the full view and back of the jumpsuit.  The lighting also shows off the color.  If the pants are as long as shown on the model, and with me being short, I’ll have to put them in the cleaners and have them hemmed.

This is by far my favorite jumpsuit, and I’m glad to have found it.  The one thing about this ensemble is that it can be versatile for the office as well.

Korean-Fashion-Star-Elegant-Jumpsuit-Women-2013-Rompers-Ladies-Jumpsuit-Halter-Pearl-Lace-Patchwork-Jumpsuits-Rompers6This is when a blazer from H&M comes into the picture or a blazer from a really good retailer that speaks to the style of the jumpsuit.

As time teaches us in the fashion industry (and as far as I am concerned) jumpsuits are or have been under-rated for quite some time until designers have recognized heir full potential.  It’s been a long time since I’ve found a jumpsuit I actually liked, which prompted me to decide that I wanted to wear one to the event I have coming up in a few months.

The beauty of it is, you don’t have to spend a lot of money in choosing the right one.  It all depends on where you shop and how much you want to spend.  And it’s all about what your personal style and taste when choosing a jumpsuit for yourself.

Best recommendation I can offer is shop around.  Find one that meets your specific measurements.  You’ll know the right one when you see it.

And these are my favorite three jumpsuits.  If you want to contact me about these jumpsuits or other jumpsuits you are interested in and you’d like my opinion, email me or simply comment on this post.


My Favorite Fashion Trends for the Woman Over 40: Interviewing & In the Office

December 28, 2014

Hello to all my readers out there.  I hope each and every one of you enjoyed the Holiday Season and had a wonder Christmas.  Not sure if this will be my last post of the year, but in case it is, I wanted to give you something to read and hopefully enjoy.  This post speaks to the woman over 40.  And if you’re under 40 and you get some value from it, that would be just as great.

Let’s get right into it!

Whether you’ve just reached your 40’s, or in your mid to near the end of the 40’s era you’ve probably come to question certain fashion trends and if they are suitable for you, especially in the work place. In other words, if they are “age appropriate.”

I wanted to take some time to share some of my favorite styles that not only speak to the workforce, providing a professional polished look, but they also give the woman over 40 a much younger looking appearance.  I am 47, I am here to tell you it’s not over for us in the fashion world and when it comes to our unique style and taste.

As women 40 and over, it’s all about embracing our fabulosity, but at the same time keeping it real.

Ever been in a situation where you were called to come in for an interview and you literally found yourself stumped because you had no idea whatsoever on what to wear?  Let me tell you times have changed and the days of the “power suit” are pretty much far behind us.  But don’t abandon it altogether because there are those traditional hiring personnel who have held on to the old fashioned rules of interviewing.  At the same time today’s younger generation have demonstrated that you don’t need a dark suit with a white blouse to seal the deal in an interview.  Of course more traditional hiring personnel look for it to provide that first impression in terms of how you’re dressed and your overall appearance as the first step of the interview, but let me tell you, young people today have stepped up to the plate taking bolder steps in showing that breaking the rules of interviewing attire can be done successfully and tastefully, and still walk away with a winning interview.

So, how can the woman over 40, who is returning to the workforce or in between jobs, win an interview having stepped away from what’s been the norm way back in the day?  First let’s take into consideration where you’re interviewing and who you will be meeting.  First interviews are the ones where you really have to sell yourself, impress who you are meeting with, especially if there is going to be a second interview.  Therefore, getting past the first interview is important.  You can talk up a storm all you want, but if you don’t dress the part, that could be a mark against you.  It’s not always the case, but why chance it?


H&M offers up some stylish trends that are more than office appropriate, but you can walk into any interview with a high level of confidence, enough to win you the interview without even saying a word. :)

hmprod-1First up, is this draped wrap-style blouse from H&M, $29.99.  Made with airy woven fabric, has a longer back, jersey lining in the front, has metal buttons in the front and at cuffs, and is machine washable.

hmprodI have both the blue and white one.  I had to go to three different store locations to find the blue one because as soon as they get it online, it sells out almost immediately, then when they get the blue one in stores, it goes just as quickly.  You can’t even find the white one in stores. nor any of their other solid colors.

The hardest thing to find, which I have found is a good pair of slacks.  I like slacks that are made with fabric that give that smooth flow when you walk; long that covers my ankles and part of my feet, to allow me to wear a kick-ass pair of heels with them, like I usually do.  That’s just me, of course.  I  can be quite a diva when it comes to me getting all dressed up whether for a special occasion or going to work.

So, because I love a good pair of slacks, I don’t just run out and buy the first pair I see.  I take my time.  What I look for is quality in the fabric, the style, overall fit, and how they are made.  I prefer button closure, but not a lot of the times I can find them.  Sometimes I get lucky and find them at local area boutiques.  Since moving over six months ago, the first thing I did was scope out the closest boutiques, make myself known by getting to know the managers and staff in order to be kept up-to-date on their latest styles and what they have new in stock.

Not all slacks fit alike, so it’s important to try them on before you buy, this way you can sort of gauge whether or not you need a larger or smaller size.  With H&M ‘s pants, they tend to run smaller, therefore I go with the next one to two sizes up to get a good comfortable fit.

hmprod-2The best slacks they have are their woven fabric, straight, wide leg airy pants.  They are 92% polyester and 8% spandex.  I have the white ones, which seems to be a popular item because the white ones are completely sold out.

hmprod-3They have a hook-and-eye fastener, lined at the top, and flows beautifully.  I’m short, so the length is perfect for me.

Wearing the right pants to an interview, in my opinion, says you have class and style, and you know what it means to dress for success; and you pay attention to how you look and your overall appearance.  After all, first impressions speak volumes.

What kind of shoes will you wear with this ensemble?  I’m glad you asked.  Like I said, I can be quite the diva when it comes to dressing up.  When I know I have the perfect outfit, the shoes are what seals the deal.

If you don’t want to do the blue with the black pants, you can definitely go with a lighter color, or something patterned to step up the ensemble.

hmprod-6hmprod-7Like I mentioned, I have the white draped wrap-style blouse also from H&M, and it presents just as nice a professional appearance as it does with the blue one.  Remember how well you coordinate your outfit will determine the overall outcome.

One thing to remember, too, if you find yourself second guessing an ensemble you put together, do yourself a favor and do not wear it.  Change the outfit right away.

If you have another ensemble you were going to go with and you felt comfortable with it in the beginning, go with your first mind.

shoes-heels-las-m7284blackpatWith this ensemble, if you choose to go with the white blouse, you can either go with a solid classic black pump, or you can be bold and daring and go with something sensual and exotic and go with something way out of left field.  That’s entirely up to you.  In the case of this ensemble with a white draped wrap-style blouse, I recommend choosing a black pump…I went with a black ankle strap patent leather pump.  Keeps the outfit polished and professional.

Back in the day wearing pumps other than black or brown was considered taboo.  The rules of interviewing have changed such that as long as you’re keeping it tasteful, you are bound to not only turn heads, win the interview, and leave a long lasting impression.

shoes-heels-ami-nicoleroyalbluesu_2My favorite are these blue faux suede high heels I would wear with the blue drapped wrap-style blouse.  They come with a 1 and a half inch covered platform and a 6-inch stiletto heel, and they have a cushioned foot bed.  I could be off just a bit on the platform and heel, but you get the general idea.

This is the perfect ensemble you are bound to get some compliments.  Now, don’t do anything crazy by over accessorizing this ensemble.  Simplicity with this ensemble is ideal.  Nice make up, light perfume, maybe a single strand of pearls or a medium double strand pearl necklace.

Staying ahead of the fashion trends keeps you up-to-date with today’s woman is wearing.

OK…Let’s look at what the ideal ensemble for the office can be.  I like working in those office environments where having a professional polished look is essential to the position you are working in because of who you will be mostly in contact with.  It not only gives you a chance to show off your fashion skills, but it also says you know how to represent who you are working for.

Too often I have seen women over do it to the point where it is way too over the top.  Come on, ladies, you don’t have to get buck wild with it.  “Keep it tasteful” is what I find myself always saying because all eyes are on you if you are in one of those positions where you are the go to person or point person for certain aspects of your job.

Screen-Shot-2013-10-08-at-1.00.59-PMOne of my favorite ensembles includes this pretty floral sleeveless top with a top from Eva Mendes, which I purchased from New York & Company in 2013 just before my trip to Florida.  I tried to include a large enough picture because I wanted you to be able to see the detail in this blouse.  Very chi chi if you ask me.

07594911_446It has the right amount of elegance and the right blazer can just jazz up this top making you the best dressed in the office.

If you’re a woman who likes to look nice, something like this should be easy for you to get your hands on.

I have found New York & Company to be the best place to get similar tops like this.  They have an array of styles and colors, and often you can find them on sale.  This particular one is no longer available, so I was fortunate to get it at the time I did.

What do you pair it with?  I recently attended an interview in Santa Monica just before Christmas.  It was one of the warmest days we had during the week.  Because this was my second interview with one of the district managers, I wanted to let my ensemble shine just like my personality so I thought I would pair this top with the white slacks I have just like the black ones.


Let me tell you something, when I first put this ensemble together, I wasn’t quite sure which pair of pants I would wear.  It was a toss up between these and the ones I have from Ashley Stewart.  Of course my H&M pants won over.

hmprod-4Made just like the black ones, they are lined at the top, have an hook-and-eye fastener, wide leg, airy, straight, and flows beautifully anx they are the right length.

The right pair of slacks can take any ensemble to the next level and shows just how polished and professional you can be when the opportunity arises.  I don’t like dress pants made with fabric that feels rough and stiff.

I guess you are wondering what shoes did I wear with this ensemble, right?  Guess no more because I pulled out my Qupid Pinch-01 shoes.  The color is considered Nude Emboss, which are actually like a blush, pinkish color.  I first purchased these from DB Shoes in the Baldwin Hills Crenshaw Plaza in Los Angeles.  I look for the deals and got these bad boys on sale.  I first tried on a 6 1/2.  They fit alright, but they were giving one of my toes on my left foot issues so I exchanged them for my regular size 7 once I found out they had one pair in stock.

pinch01nudeemb-3Talk about some sexy shoes.  These are it!!!  I fell in love the first time I saw them and actually obsessed over them until I got them.  Are they office appropriate?  It depends on the office environment you work in.

QupidPinch-01-Nude1Let me tell you about them.  They have a 5.5 inch heel, 1.75 inch platform, cushioned footbed, and the fabric is a sheeny texture with a synthetic non-skid sole.

Choosing the right shoes for an ensemble like this took me a few minutes because I knew these would pull the whole thing together and make it pop.  To add one more piece to it, I added a blazer that is almost the same color as the shoes.  It’s color coordinating all the way from top to bottom.  And the thing about it, is when you put the cost of the entire ensemble, it falls under $120 when you factor in the cost of the blouse, the pants, the shoes and the blazer.

alloy_the_professionalLet’s look at one more of my favorite ensembles for the office which comes from Alloy Apparel.  I saw this and thought, what a better way to show I am a professional woman than with this ensemble.  I love everything about this.  The style, the detail, the pants, everything.

I looked at all of the colors before settling on the Clarkson navy pinstripe pants (or trousers).  I thought the navy did the ensemble more justice than the other colors and made it stand out.  I especially loved the Jude Pearl blouse with the navy  trim down the front, collar and cuffs, and the pearl-like detail on the collar.  This is another set I took with me to Florida and wore to the meeting I attended amongst other healthcare professionals.

Fashion Mia_108a475288ecbcbfb2f2e3df7d5b80caNow, with this ensemble, I wanted to maintain the professionalism of the look, so with the shoes I chose, I kept it simple and basic.  I originally chose to wear my Carlos Santana black platform high heels. They brought it all together with ease.  And I received many compliments.  But then I decided to switch it up and go with these by Crape Myrtle I purchased from Fashion Mia.

The thing you have to be careful with ordering shoes from Fashion Mia is the size ordering.  For example, I wear a size 7.  To get the size I need I had to go with a size 6 1/2 – 7.  Let me tell you, it is not the same thing.  But because my other shoes had reached the end of their life span, and because I thought I was going to get a good fit…I ordered them.  It’s the first time I have had any real issues with ordering high heels platform pumps online.  They need a good stretching and they’ll be fine.

This pretty much concludes my professional wear on ideal ensembles to wear to an interview and office attire.

I have my ensembles for the office that are not as dressy, which are usually reserved for Friday casual days, or if the office I work in does not require Fortune 500 professional attire. In this post I wanted to reassure the ladies over 40 that you don’t have to let your age define what you can and cannot wear.  Of course there is such a thing as wearing fashion that is age appropriate, you don’t want to sacrifice your overall style and taste.

With trends changing on a regular basis, it can be easy to get left behind and find yourself not sure what to wear or where to go for the best trends for the best prices; or find yourself in the wrong trends.  There is something for everyone.  Getting older doesn’t have to get us down, in fact this is the time when we should embrace our age and enjoy what life has more to offer.  Become of what current fashion trends to have to offer us women over 40.  We do have the sense enough to know what works for us and what doesn’t.  I am always available and ready to lend a helping hand to the woman who is working to find her individual style.  I am just an email away.  Fashion is what you make it.


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